for real tho, lets talk about “transmisandry”
trans men often like to paint transmisandry as (and these are quotes) “betraying their sisters” or “trans women are pissed at them for giving up the bodies they wish they had”
these are accusations ive only ever seen levied against trans men by other trans men claiming that thats what trans women say all the time
and somehow ive never seen trans women accuse trans men of that, and youd think i would have by now, seeing as my friends and i have run ins with transmisogynist trans men pretty regularly
and its funny, cause we always call trans men out for hurting trans women, we get after trans men for things like rape apologism, for misogyny and trans misogyny
i couldnt give less of a shit about trans mens bodies. i dont care about trans mens betraying their sisters or whatever they come up with next
saying that transmisandry is based around those sorts of things is a quick and easy way to avoid admitting that what they label “transmisandry” is just trans women hitting back at the people hurting us
i’ve seen transmisandry defined by trans men as being definitionally enacted by trans women, which makes these accusations all the more hilarious and depressing (b/c of how willing non-trans women are to eat up shitty “poor victimized men!” sob stories as it gives them reason to hate trans women) b/c it’s an admission that there isn’t any significant hostility directed specifically towards trans men by the general populace, just from trans women.
I’m reblogging this again and this time with commentary. This is just one small piece of oppression enacted by trans men. Like trans men as a class continually erase transmisogyny and do the damnedest to pretend that “we’re all the same” or “we’re fighting for the same rights”, or “we’re all oppressed as trans people.”
Get off your transmisogynistic horse and actually look at what is going on. This isn’t the oppression olympics, it’s reality. Trans women are victimized, slandered, stereotyped, incarcerated, and discriminated against far more often than trans men and we can’t even access the fucking support services that we need to survive because DFAB trans people are spinning the “socialized as a girl” bullshit to keep their access and male privilege while simultaneously excluded trans women by forcing a narrative of male privilege onto us and degendering us.
On top of everything else, they are also complicit in allowing and giving an excuse to cis people to shit on trans women in the name of trans men. No, me calling you on your shit is not “transmisandry”, you’re not “invisible” because of “misandry”, and we aren’t in the same community. You hold privilege because you are a man. You’re not men lite, and your transmisogyny is both visible and gross.